gender differences

My daughter was commenting the other night on how different men and women were when congregating in groups of friends. She said when her boyfriend went out with his guy friends some good business happened as they got together in a collaborative way and made it happen. He would come home and tell her about the new project they had cooked up or a new song they had all written together.  She was trying to understand why this didn’t happen when she was with her women friends and explained it by the “hunter-gatherer” instinct in males. She believes that men collaborate better together as they learned this as cave men when men had to work together to bring home the bison. Women have not yet learned this as we are still competing for the men not believing we can makeit on our own now and get our own bison. The end result is that when we are together with other women we are still competing with each other rather than collaborating with each other. Those were not her words, exactly, but they sure made me think. My daughter is a supreme feminist as I am,  yet she had noticed this  and did not like it. I remember when I was teaching communication in a business school how easy it was to work with the men students as I would give them feedback and they would thank me. My women students would argue with me and defend themselves, not wanting to be criticized. They ( the women) viewed my feedback as criticism rather than helpful feedback on how to get a job. I remember trying to word things differently for both sexes but I always remember knowing I was the same as my women students. I know I act differently with men than with women and that I prefer the company of men as they are easier to be with for me. There is no competition and an easy acceptance that I enjoy.I find this reflection an interesting one and that’s all I have to say on this subject for now.

2 Comments on “gender differences

  1. To Lucinda with love…
    I just finished reading your whole blog and am stunned — knocked out — by your openness and willingness to reveal your true and emotional self. I know this about you on a smaller, personal level. But to speak truth to the unknown and unseen world is really something amazing. I am really glad I took the time to read through this whole unfolding of your thoughts and beliefs and fears and daily miscellany.

  2. To Lucinda with love…
    I just finished reading your whole blog and am stunned — knocked out — by your openness and willingness to reveal your true and emotional self. I know this about you on a smaller, personal level. But to speak truth to the unknown and unseen world is really something amazing. I am really glad I took the time to read through this whole unfolding of your thoughts and beliefs and fears and daily miscellany.

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